CONFIDENCE IS SEXIER THAN ANY OUTFIT
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend the other day and I don’t remember exactly how the topic came up but she asked, “Do you find it sexy when women dress up in those skimpy policewoman and nurse costumes?” I said, “not exactly but the intent behind them is very sexy because it implies confidence.” With a slightly puzzled expression, she looked at me and said’ “OK… Explain that.”
Although I don’t find those outfits particularly appealing as a guy what really matters is the effort made to say I’m sexy, I’m seductive and I want you to look at me with desire and lust. I can tell you, and it should be no surprise that guys are attracted to confident women. There I said it, confidence is sexy. Think about that for a second… Pretty much all guys out there have looked at images that are provocative in nature and there is an attraction to them but I’m going to argue that it’s not about how much skin is showing; it’s that the women are portrayed as confident.
I want Provocateur Images to show you how being sexy and accepting your body will help you discover a different level of personal confidence that opens you up to new ways of thinking and experiences. Boudoir at our Toronto studio pushes boundaries and puts you a little outside your comfort zone in a good way. What I do in my Toronto boudoir sessions is essentially teach confidence. Women (and men too) have way too many hang ups about their bodies mainly from the imagery that says you have to look a certain way. When you can break that thought process and see yourself as sexy you’ll find your confidence.
Confidence is a powerful thing and as it relates to boudoir photography I think one of the main reasons I love this genre of photography so much is how I have the ability to give people their confidence and show them that the perfect size is their size. Your body is just fine as it is and if you want to make tweaks to it, that’s ok but having curves, stretch marks or having a small chest doesn’t make you any less sexy. My goal is to teach you you’re beautiful exactly as you are.
I have had hundreds of clients that have come in that could tell you stories of how a boudoir session at our Toronto studio changed their confidence both for themselves and when with their partner. I want to share with you a recent client’s story that really brings the confidence point home and that made me so happy for Miss P.
Miss P came in for a session just because it was something she wanted to do. She was drawn to Provocateur Images because she loved how our boudoir images looked. She mentioned as we started the session that she had never seen herself as beautiful because of her curves and noted that as a single girl in her 30’s she had always had trouble meeting guys. When we finished the session which she absolutely ROCKED by the way, she was on cloud nine and grinning ear to ear because she had never felt so sexy or so good about her body. On her way out she gave me huge hug said she was going to meet up with a friend at a bar to go celebrate her milestone.
When Miss P came back in for her reveal the following week I could see she was carrying herself differently. I asked her how her night out after her boudoir session went. “AMAZING!” were the words she chose to use. I asked why and she said it was because she had never had so many guys interacting with her in a good way. So I decided to ask her if it was because she had her hair and makeup professionally done before she went out from the session or because it was how she carried herself… She thought about it for a minute and said, “No it definitely was that I was confident, feeling good about myself and that I had a smile on my face I could not wipe off.” She was sure of this because she went out on subsequent nights without the professional hair and makeup and the results were the same. Miss P said it was amazing how a few hours at The Provocateur Images Toronto Boudoir studio can change someone so much. “What you do here is something everyone should try and I’m so glad I did it and I’m coming back… Thank You!”
I guess ultimately what I’m saying is that my goal is to help you realize that looking sexy and desirable for your partner is not something you should feel silly about when dressing up, its something you can do with confidence and feel amazing doing it. And trust me, he’ll notice because the sexiest thing a woman can wear is confidence.